Updated: Feb 24
If you are the author of your own life, do you know what your stories are?
Not the “I had to walk to school uphill both ways…” kind of story.
I’m talking about the kind of story that you tell yourself about the facts in your life.
First, let’s get clear on what a fact is:
It's 100% true
Everyone would agree that it's true
It's indisputable and verifiable
It's not based on feeling.
Facts could look like:
You gained 4 pounds last month.
You are 49 years old.
Your two children are away at college.
All are true. All are verifiable.
Story, on the other hand, are the thoughts you have about the facts.
For example, let’s say you gained 4 pounds last month. (A fact because the number on the scale can verify it).
Your story (thoughts about the fact) may be:
I’m never going to lose weight.
Four pounds is a lot.
There’s something wrong with me.
Losing weight is hard.
These thoughts, while they may feel true, are not necessarily true because they are not fact. To someone who weighs 400 pounds, 4 pounds means something different than it does to someone who weighs 100 pounds.
The good news is that stories can be changed.
Once you find your stories, you can rewrite any that aren't serving you.
Journaling is a great way to find your stories.
Try journaling about something that’s going on in your life that's causing you some discomfort.
Then go back and underline any sentence that is 100% undeniably and verifiably true. These are your facts.
Everything that’s left is your story.
Ask yourself, “Will my story – as I'm telling it right now – get me the results or outcomes that I really want?”
If they don’t, change them.
Pick new thoughts and write a new story for yourself. Or book a consultation with me here and I’ll help you. Together, we'll get to the bottom of your stories and make sure that they are helping you live your best life!
You hold the pen. What will you write?